Wednesday, May 19, 2010

I didn't have a miscarriage.......

Ever since I lost Juanito I feel like I have had to prove that I did not have a miscarriage. I was 21 weeks. He was smaller because of the hemorrhage I suffered when I was 13 weeks. My placenta did not function like it should have, but I had to go through everything that I went through while having my other kids. I was half way there. I am just so furious that I constantly feel like I have to prove to everyone that I had to deliver him like a full term baby and that I just didn't go in for a D&C. Not that having a MC is any less just different. It is just as emotional and it is still a loss. I just want my justification that that is not what I went through!

13 comments:

  1. I'm sorry you have to justify ((hugs))

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  2. I'm sorry too. Yes, a mc is a loss, but it is worlds different, not worse or better just different. Thinking of you, XO

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  3. So sorry! I feel the same way ALL THE TIME! People are very uneducated. I take that as an opportunity to educate those people!

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  4. yep me too. people just don't know.

    ((hugs))

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  5. I've often felt like I have to defend Hannah's life. I definately understand where you are coming from. xxx

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  6. xoxo...i know they are different and so do you...everyone else just needs to keep their mouths quiet on this..EVERY single loss is different...

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  7. I am so sorry, people just don't get it.

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  8. You shouldn't have to justify it. That isn't right.

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  9. Agreed! Very different kinds of losses. XO

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  10. I totally agree. I was 19 weeks and it WAS NOT a miscarriage.....it was a delivery, a stillborn. Lots of hugs!!

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  11. Yes, every loss is different, but they are all PAINFUL, through life there will always be people who do not have sympathy and there will be people who are right there crying with you like I am now:(:(:(:(. Michelle, God, Blessed Virgin Mary,and you know what you went through. I have had two miscarriages and have had comments from family that people would not even tell me cause they were HEARTLESS RUDE COMMENTS about basically oh well its just a miscarriage. Well it really bugged me for along time but then I remember they are HEARTLESS AND RUDE. How anyone can tell you your baby was a misscarage, you First should ask them what is the difference???? It is my Baby with a Soul a gift from God at CONCEPTION. Anytime any woman loses a baby at a month or 9 mths or any age it is HELL. I am sorry for all the people who are not thinking when they talk about you losing your Juanito. Like the nice comments from above they are uneducated but they need to be more sympathetic to your pain . I pray for all women who have delivered still born babies and that have had misscarrages and those who will never have a baby. Hang in there Michell, like I said God and you were there. Please know you have TONS of people all over the world praying for you in missing your SWEET BABY .God Bless and hold you all always. We can pray to your Juanito that he helps enlighten people with more love and sympathy to not put his Mama on trial. Take care. Susan Crouder

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  12. It is so wrong for anyone to minimize your loss! You baby was yours from conception on and the suffering you went through cannot be compared. No one should try. I am sorry that you have had to face this.

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  13. I totally get what you are saying here Michelle. You have a beautuful blog. What a special way to honor your son.

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