Monday, October 11, 2010

Angels???

SO I want to hear your thoughts on calling living children angels? Before I lost Juanito I know that I used this label for my living children at times. What parent doesn't? Then I lost him and I learned the true meaning of what an angel is. I am having such a rough time hearing people call their living children angels. It really bothers me. I wish it didn't, but it does. For me the only children that should be able to use the term angel are those that have left this earth too soon and live in Heaven. They are the only ones who should be called angels. What are your feelings on the topic? Does it bother you? Have you been able to get past it? Is it something that will pass for me too? I am just curious.

10 comments:

  1. Hmm I have to admit like you before this happened I have used that term for living children. But like you said it changes when you lose a child. I have no living children but when I do I will not call them angels. I don't know if it's something that will bother you less or not - I hope it gets better though! (((hugs)))

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  2. I feel this way too... We got an ultrasound of our baby and the ultrasound tech thought he was being cute and typed in "Hi mom and dad, I'm your baby angel boy!" on the picture and I got really upset. I wanted to scream "No, Rylan is not going to be an angel for a long time!" I still can't look at the picture because it's too hard. I know the feeling is irrational and it shouldn't bother me, but it does.

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  3. It bothers me a lot too. Someone gave me a sleeper with a bunch of their old baby clothes that said "sweet sleeping angel" on it, and I started to cry. I held a sweet sleeping angel. I couldn't bear to even have it in my house. I gave it to someone else. I also have some some baby boy scrapbooking stickers that I was given when pregnant with Patrick, and one of them says "little baby angel." I haven't even touched that package of stickers. I should just throw that one away so I don't have to look at it every time I go through my stickers.

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  4. I think its just one of those things that just roll off the tongue, for a while it even bothered me when Ella passed and people would call her my angel, and I would tell them that we believe the angels were already created and that she is a soul in heaven, but after many crazy looks and shrugs, I smile and say thank you..as far as living children, again, I just don't say anything, but I think to myself how it seems cruel almost to call them one..the grieving heart and mind are a tricky thing, you never know whats going to strike a cord from one minute to the next..I don't try to rationalize it anymore :)

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  5. OMG...YES, this bothers me to my core! Growing up, my Mom always called me her little angel, so it was cool until Alexandra died. Then I realized what a true angel does and I feel like "angel" should only be reserved for us BLMs. It may seem selfish in a way...but I think we're all entitled to this one term, aren't we? You're definitely not alone on this one! XO

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  6. I, of course, have used that term in the past but now I could never. I was actually looking through my living son's baby book last night and saw a scrapbook sticker that said "Heaven Sent" and it made me cry. At least he got to stay here on earth with me for now, but I will never be able to use terms like that in any future children's books. These eyes just see things differently now.

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  7. I've used it before but not very often. And I've always used it as an endearing term for both my children in Heaven and here on earth.

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  8. It has been bothering me a lot too lately.

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  9. I don't remember who used the term. I cringed when I heard it. I remember thinking "no I have an angel".

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  10. Honestly, before Matthew died, I gave it very little thought. I may have used it, but probably not often (I'm more of a precious, sugar, darling, sweetheart kind of person..) When he died, the first post I wrote on my blog to let everyone know what happened I titled "Goodbye my Angel" and really, I didn't angel with the significance of him being in Heaven. I just wanted a really special, precious word. Since he's died, I don't really call him my angel because he's in Heaven, because much like Jen, I believe there is a difference between angels created by God and humans created by God but are in Heaven. Again, that's just my personal belief, but Matthew 18:10 is what I base that on: "See that you do not despise one of these little ones, for I say to you that their angels in heaven always look upon the face of my heavenly Father."

    It's comforting for me to know that Matthew has and always had an angel in Heaven with him. It is comforting for me to know that he's never, ever been alone--that his angel in Heaven and was created just to watch over him was and is always with him.

    But again...that's just me...I think that angel is just a special term of endearment that people maybe don't really think about the meaning behind--I know I never really did before Matthew died, and I've always believed that angels were specially created creatures of God and different than human--just didn't really think about what that really meant to me and in my life.

    Been thinking about you! So, so, so, so behind on blogs (thank God for FB!) but have been thinking about you...and as I'm laughing over Sister Wives, think of you and wonder how close you are to that filming that day!

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